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Yea, I agree. Personally I don't feel like it's any of my business to tell people how to deal with their grief. But I feel that I need to share my experience, so that someday someone might be in the same boat and will find some comfort knowing that what they're feeling is alright and how they deal with it is up to them.

Right now, I've been crying a lot, so has my aunt and my mother. My father hasn't he's a different person than us. He internalizes his emotions and keeps them to himself. I don't fault him for this, he just deals with it differently.

Thank you so much for your message.

I will miss her terribly but I know she will always be with me in my heart.

She sacrificed all her life so that her children and grandchildren could have an easier time than she'd had. She cared for her siblings after her mom died, scrubbed floors during the Depression, made a living sewing in factories, and endured nearly 20 years of marriage to a raging drunk.

When she passed away in 2000, she was 88 years old. As with your grandmother, it was not entirely a surprise. Starting a few days after her funeral, I found myself unusually salty, defensive, and irritable. I couldn't understand why. Then realized: it was grief, emerging as anger.

As you say, everyone experiences and expresses grief in their own way. In these coming weeks, as you process your loss, remember to be good to yourself. If your grandmother was anything like mine, she'd want that.